Thursday, June 4, 2009

Denise Jonas talks about her boys' purity vows

Mama's boys Nick, Joe & Kevin Jonas' Mommy Denise is featured in the July issue of Good Housekeeping [Via NYDN]. Denise reveals how she raised the boys right in the spotlight: Mama Jonas says she taught her sons everything..

..from good manners to safe sex [Otherwise known as 'abstinence'] and how
to behave on the road. Nick, 'she makes us be careful in the hotel room. [She makes us] put back the towels, straighten the bed.' Mom know she won't be able to keep their pure images forever even though each of her boys..

..wears a chastity ring: 'They are men. They have desires. They have testosterone. If they make a mistake, I'm not going to hate them. I don't think they are above or below being seduced. I would be foolish if I thought that. I pray for them.'

Denise, 'They've been criticized for proclaiming things they never proclaimed. And what's the criticism? They don't want to go out there giving everyone an STD? What's so terrible about that? I try to guide them with their choices. They have been hurt in relationships by girls. But it's just about growing up and learning what it means to be in a relationship.'

Joe, 'People always ask, 'What's a girl have to do to get your attention?' [I say] she has to be good to Mom.' Denise's requirements in a daughter-in-law? 'She must sincerely and totally love my son!'

Jonas Brothers & Mommy Denise in Good Housekeeping: From food stamps to fame.. When Denise was young, her Italian family converted from Catholicism to nondenominational Christianity, and after high school, Denise felt called to missionary work. 'I had a heart to give my life to service.

I didn't really know all I could do in that area. After meeting my husband, we were able to work through music.' Denise Kevin Jonas Sr. met on their very
first day at Christ for the Nations Institute in Dallas.

The sweet-faced man with an intense demeanor ['He talked like he was going to conquer the world'] had grown up dirt-poor in rural North Carolina with his single mother, and was considered a musical prodigy, singing professionally at age 7.

For income, Kevin tried to help Denise's parents, who had bought a carpet-installation business in Arizona. The venture didn't go well: 'We had to live on food stamps. It was very hard on my husband. He was trying to do something good for the family, but the business wasn't paying. It was a humbling time.

Now we look back on it as a turning point, something necessary for us to go through so we could properly appreciate where we would be later.' Kevin Sr. abandoned his dream of becoming a performer, and he took a job that combined his Christian faith and love of music: directing a music..
..program at his and Denise's old institute. This required the family, which by the early 1990s included Kevin Jr. and baby Joe, to spend months at a time on the road in a 15-passenger van, meeting with students. 'We wanted [everyone] to feel joy in the presence of our children. To me, there's nothing more..

..frustrating than being around a child who's annoying. We taught our kids proper manners.' Denise's methods: consistency, boundaries and constantly 'reinforcing good conduct until it was behavior. Because they're going to be adults a lot longer than they're children.'

Right away, she and Kevin Sr. could tell that Nick was different. He did not like the usual childhood pastimes, he didn't want to play with LEGOs or watch TV: 'The only thing Nick would watch was a DVD of Mary Martin in Peter Pan.'

Then he started singing, beautifully. One day when he was crooning at the salon where Denise got her hair done, another customer said, 'He needs a manager.'